Easter is a time for celebration. To spend time with loved ones, relax and enjoy yourself. Well that is what Easter should be about but as you know if you have a stressful relationship to food then this is just not the case.
When you think of Easter you think of too much temptation with chocolate being everywhere in sight. This means that your self control and the control you put on food is threatened. You feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed. Trust me I have been there. My Easter story used to be the same. Instead of me being fully present and enjoying the moment my head was somewhere else. My thoughts were consumed by negative self talk and a constant battle was playing out in my head.
‘I can’t have that Easter egg because I know I won’t be able to stop if I do’
‘Ok what is one bite. What harm can it do’
An hour has past and I have eaten a whole bag of Lindt chocolates and mini easter eggs. So much for just one chocolate. The negative talk starts to kick in.
‘I can’t believe I have eaten so much. I am disgusting. Look at me’
‘How can everyone else just have a tiny bit of chocolate and leave it at that? What is wrong with me?’
‘Tomorrow will be different. I won’t have any chocolate. Ever’
The shame and the guilt I feel becomes overwhelming. It consumes me and I get lost in the darkness of despair. Hating myself and longing for things to be different. For me to be ‘normal.’
I manage to get to bed, I don’t sleep well because of all the sugar circulating around my body and the negative thinking keeps me up. The worry about how I’m going to get through tomorrow keeps playing on my mind.
I wake up with the best intentions but that feeling of deep shame is still there. Still playing over and over in my mind. My will power starts to fall away and that leftover chocolate is calling my name. I know I shouldn’t but the pull is too strong and yet again I find myself post chocolate binge right back where I started.
This is how my story used to play out. Can you relate?
This cycle is something that I was constantly stuck in and it really upsets me to see women struggling with this very issue. I managed to finally leave that cycle of eating and thinking when I thought it was impossible. I now work with women to help and support them to do the very same. To finally leave food hell and create a healthier relationship to food and more importantly themselves. It would have been a crime to go through what I went through and not help others. To share what I have learnt while on my journey and throughout my education to offer relief and a way to move forward so real life long changes can occur.
So if you find yourself in that place of shame and despair after bingeing on too many chocolates or whatever your binge food might be. I want you to try these 5 strategies:
In this very moment. Forgive. The past is the past. Don’t dwell on it. You are NOT your mistakes. They do not define you. Say it with me:
‘I am not my mistakes. I forgive myself completely. I am trying my best and I know that change can occur and I forgive myself’
Don’t allow your stress and anxiety to get the better of you. When you feel stressed your body tenses up and your breath becomes shallow which only makes you more anxious. Close your eyes and take 10 deep breathes. In through your nose and out through your mouth. This exercise lowers stress chemistry, allows for the mind to slow down and reconnects you with your body.
Do it NOW
Awareness is key when you are trying to change. So instead of getting lost in the maze of self loathing. Ask yourself a few questions so you can better understand yourself and the role food plays in your life:
‘What is my relationship to food trying to tell me?’
‘What is going on for me emotionally at this time?’
‘What does food represent for me?’
‘How can I do things differently next time?’
‘How can I love myself in this very moment?’
Get your journal out and start writing.
Move Your Body
Don’t sit and dwell on your past mistakes. Instead try your best to get outside. Go for a walk or a run. Whatever feels good for you. Get your blood flowing. This will help your body detox, your mind to becomes less foggy, lift your mood and help ease digestion. You can even try a little yoga which will connect you to your breathe and allow for your strong emotions to dissipate. Try this video: Yoga for Digestion
Eat Real Food
Get back to eating real and nutritious food to help balance out blood sugar levels and get you back into a normal eating rhythm which will help reduce cravings. Think proteins such as lean meats, eggs, pulses, salmon and pair it with a good source of healthy fat from avocado, olive oil, nuts and seeds. Make sure you also fill your plate with alkalising greens such as kale, broccoli, lettuce or spinach. Try my Chickpea and Avocado Salad which is quick and easy to make.
You can’t hate yourself and your body into change. This way of living is very stressful and will only lead you back to where you started. So if you find yourself lost in confusion and self doubt try one of these strategies and then move onto the next strategy when you are ready. Take it slow, be kind and be patient with yourself.
I hope this post was helpful to you and I want you to know you are not alone in your struggle with food. So many women are feeling how you are feeling. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
If you feel you need some extra support and guidance to turn your relationship to food around please feel free to contact me so I can book you in for a complimentary skype chat to see how I can best support you. I have been where you are and trust me. There is hope and change is possible. Get in contact today.
All my love,