Trust me I have learnt this from experience. I hated my body and myself into losing weight. Everyday I came from a place of self punishment and self loathing. Denying myself of any pleasure because I felt I didn’t deserve it. My inner voice in my head was on repeat, throwing abuse at me. This voice is the thing that lead me down the dark path that I went down. I believed every word it was saying to me. So I became exactly who the voice was portraying me to be. What you think you become. Your mind is so important in the equation to trying to lead a healthy life.
You CANNOT hate your body into change because when you do lose the weight you aimed to lose, but you did it by restricting and with crazy workouts, you are not going to be able to sustain it because you approached your weight loss the wrong way. Does this resinate with you? I always thought if I just lost the weight I would be happy and comfortable in my own skin. When I did lose the weight and everyone was commenting on how well I looked. Did I feel it? No. This is because I had hated myself into reaching that place. So I reached the place and still hated myself and disliked my body.
One of the main reasons you maybe having issues with food is because you punish yourself and are too striked with yourself. Your body is starved of good nutrition and starved of the self love and compassion that you and your body NEED to produce long lasting changes. It is seeking comfort and pleasure. Food is just that. Food is so pleasurable and comforting, so no wonder you reach for food when you are feeling miserable.
Self punishment always leads to something negative.Â So to eradicate the guilt and shame you experience from your bad food choices do you find yourself punishing and restricting yourself the next day? You find yourself caught up in the never ending cycle and the self loathing and self punishment only gets stronger with each week that goes by? Sound familiar?
I have been on a long journey with my weight, food, body and self esteem. Back then I couldn’t see any lessons that could be learned from my experiences but now looking back I can see the reasons I was doing the things I was doing.
Going through things in life, good or bad, doesn’t mean anything if you don’t take the time to reflect and grow from the experience.I am now studying at the Psychology of Eating to further my knowledge in this field. I am loving every second. It is helping me heal on a personal level as well as gain invaluable insights and tools to delve deeper with my clients. To uncover who they are as eaters and not just focusing on what they eat.
You can eat all the superfoods you like and sip on all the green juice you can get your hands on but if you don’t understand what type of eater you are and why you do the things you do and what your destructive habits are trying to tell you then true transformation can never occur.
The key that I have learnt along the way is to learn to see my struggles with weight and food as a lesson to be learned from. Your symptoms and un wanted habits have a deeper message that are longing to be listened to. You have to stop beating your symptoms and yourself up and dig deep to discover the route cause. Your issues with food and body have little or nothing to do with food and body. They are symbolic of something deeper. When we know what the under lying cause is you can go about making the changes that need to be made with more awareness.
So what I want you to do is be curious about your struggles. Without judgment but with curiosity.
Notice it, be aware and ask yourself:
- What are my struggles with food trying to tell me?
- I am using food to…?
- I tend to reach for food when…?
- What lesson can be learned from this?
My mission is to help support women suffering with similar issues. I have learnt so much from my struggles and that is why I do what I do. I have taken something good out of something that was bad. I want you to know if you can resinate with anything I have mentioned that you are not alone. What you are going through is so common and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Let go of the shame and look deeper. Without judgement.
How would you describe your relationship to food? Any lessons you have learnt along the way?
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All my love,