No one is confident 100% of the time but when your self esteem is so low that it is getting in the way of living to your fullest potential then things need to change.
Having suffered terrible self esteem issues throughout my teenage years I am continually trying to improve my sense of self worth. Coming out to Bali was just another way for me to push myself out of my comfort zone. Fear and resistance did show up at the thought of leaving all of my comforts of home life behind but if you follow me on Instagram you will know that I took the leap. I am so glad I did because so far this trip has changed me for the better.
I wanted to share with you a few ways that I am breaking down the barriers of self doubt and boosting my confidence in the process. I hope this post inspires you to do the same.
1. I attended an ecstatic dance party
What the hell is an ecstatic dance party I hear you ask. This was my thought exactly. My friend Laura was telling me how much she loved it so I decided to give it a go. What it entails is an hour and a half of dancing to music, without talking and just letting yourself go. I started off quite timid as my mind kept working overtime, judging myself on how stupid I must look. But I pushed through and by the end I was shaking it like the rest of the people. Through this process I let go of my body hang ups, my insecurities and the fear of being judged and just let myself be in the moment. It was so freeing.
I shook off all the negative energy and finished feeling completely revived with a new found confidence.
Take action: I challenge you to get your groove on. When you wake up put your favourite song on, close your eyes and shake off your stress and negative energy. Let it all go and your mood will be transformed.
2. I started to open up more
When I lack confidence I tend to not want to speak to anyone let alone people I don’t know. But looking back at this habit it has led me to realise just how destructive it is. It leaves me feeling lonely and disconnected.
So I have been challenging myself by saying hi to everyone I make eye contact with. I have had so many conversations with people that I wouldn’t have had if I had stayed closed off. All these interactions have left me feeling connected, supported and full of love. Doing this has boosted my confidence, I have made new friends and I have learnt just how the fear of being seen has held me back in many areas of my life. I am committed to changing this.
Take action: I challenge you to make eye contact with a strange and introduce yourself. You never know where the conversation may lead. Stay open and let the act of connection boost your self esteem.
3. I’m practising hypnosis
It can be hard to change life long habits and break through the beliefs about ourselves that have been ingrained in us for so long. So to help me work through some of my negative beliefs that still stick around I have been listening to a powerful hypnosis audio on boosting self esteem. When I found hypnosisdownloads.com I immediately wanted to try it out for myself. I have been listening to the audio everyday and I’m already feeling the benefits. They offer a huge variety of audios that cover many subjects such as anxiety, depression and even exercise addiction.
Take action: I challenge you to head over toÂ hypnosisdownloads.comÂ and find an audio that speaks to you. Download it, commit to finding a time in your day to listen to it and let it help you let go of some of your negative beliefs on a subconscious level.
4. I started wearing my bikini with pride
Having been very overweight as a teenager it made me feel very self conscious about my body. I might have lost the weight but some how I still viewed myself as the short, dumpy, overweight girl I once was. Viewing myself this way is not constructive so I decided I needed to take action to correct this.
So I have been wearing my bikini with pride. No hiding away, covering up or comparing myself to the other women next to me. At first I felt a sense of fear but if I wanted to increase my confidence I had to stop hiding away.Â I did feel insecure and shy at the beginning but the more I wore my bikini without shame I began to relax and my body confidence started to grow.
Take action: I challenge you to do things differently. The next time you have to wear your bikini stop hiding your beauty and wear it with pride. Every time it will get easier, less scary and you will find a renewed sense of confidence that will spill into all areas of your life.
5. I am learning to let go of control
I have a confession to make. I am a bit of a control freak. Yes I said it. In coming out to Bali I wanted to work on letting go more and finding peace with not being in control of everything. I have realised that having a tight grip on everything and feeling in control is my way of dealing with the uncertainty of the future and the fear of the unknown. In doing this I have missed out on so many opportunities and experiences because staying in control was more important to me.
So I really wanted to work on going with the flow more so I have been saying yes to opportunities that arise that may not have been part of my ‘plan’ and letting others take the lead.
It was scary at first to give control over to another person, I felt anxious but I committed to following it through. The more I practised giving up control the less anxious I felt and my confidence started to grow. To prove to myself that I could let go of control was a great feeling.
Take action:Â I challenge you to let go a bit more. Controlling everything is exhausting so take a breath and let someone else take the reigns for once. You will learn a lot about yourself in doing this. Powerful realisations will be made.
So it is safe to say Bali has been testing me everyday. Pushing me out of my comfort zone and continuing to challenge me to take action.
I hope this post inspire you to do the same. Just know that change is hard. You will feel resistance and fear will come up. Please dig deep and find the courage to break through as you deserve to live your fullest life because amazing things await you on the other side of your fear.
So tell me, where in your life do you need to take action so you can start to boost your self esteem? Please leave a comment below and share the next steps that you are going to take today to challenge yourself.
I can’t wait to read your response.
All my love,