I recently wrote a blog post Â ‘Are you hating yourself and your body into change.’Â This is such an important topic for me that I wanted to expand on it more.
We often believe that hating, self loathing and self punishment are the only ways to help motivate us to make positive changes.
So you hate yourself into a strict diet and crazy workout routine. Fine it might last a month, you lose weight but you are miserable while doing so.
Unable to maintain this strict way of living you give up on it all.
You are left feeling like a failure and hating yourself even more for not having the will power to stick to your plan. You become even more detached from your body and more into the body shaming and body hating cycle then ever.
This cycle is so toxic leaving you with low self esteem, fearing food and not being able to trust yourself or your body.
Take it from me. My approach to losing weight came from that of self loathing. When I did lose the weight I still felt something was missing. I was basing my happiness and self worth all on what the scales said and how ‘perfect’ my diet was.
- When you hate your body, you will keep creating a body you can’t love as you believe all ofÂ the self hate to be true.
- Hating your body leads you to believe that it needs to be punished leading you to fall into the trap of crash dieting which will destroy your metabolism and only lead to rebound weight gain.
- Hating your body leads you to exercise in a way that you don’t enjoy because you are trying to punish your way to a better body. You will be unable to transform your body if you approach exercise like thisÂ as the misery you experience while exercising this way only increases your stress hormones which stops fat burning in its tracks.
- Hating on your body only leads you to looking at your body as an object to manipulate, punish and restrict. Leading you to check out of your body completely so you find yourself numb, unconsciously over eating, over exercising, over spending. Whatever your vice is.
You get where I am going with this. BODY SHAMING is not the motivation you need to make healthy changes.
They key to long lasting changes is being aware, making small changes over time and practising self forgiveness, self acceptance and self love.
Ask yourself a few questions to move from body shaming to body acceptance:Â
What do I really want to eat today?
Forget the rules and give your body what it is truly hungry for.
How do I want to move my body today?
It could be a full body circuit workout or it could be a walk in nature. Listen to your body and move it in a way that feels right for you.
You are perfect the way you are.Â I want you to remind yourself of this everyday. If you do have health goals you want to meet change your mindset first and everything will fall into place. Be kind, be patient and know that you are enough. You deserve to be healthy and happy.
Ditch the body shaming and start living. Start today.
Get in touch if you have any questions. I would love to hear from you:Â firstname.lastname@example.org
All my love,