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Boosting My Self Esteem In Bali

June 23, 2015

No one is confident 100% of the time but when your self esteem is so low that it is getting in the way of living to your fullest potential then things need to change.

Having suffered terrible self esteem issues throughout my teenage years I am continually trying to improve my sense of self worth. Coming out to Bali was just another way for me to push myself out of my comfort zone. Fear and resistance did show up at the thought of leaving all of my comforts of home life behind but if you follow me on Instagram you will know that I took the leap. I am so glad I did because so far this trip has changed me for the better.

I wanted to share with you a few ways that I am breaking down the barriers of self doubt and boosting my confidence in the process. I hope this post inspires you to do the same.

1. I attended an ecstatic dance party

What the hell is an ecstatic dance party I hear you ask. This was my thought exactly. My friend Laura was telling me how much she loved it so I decided to give it a go. What it entails is an hour and a half of dancing to music, without talking and just letting yourself go. I started off quite timid as my mind kept working overtime, judging myself on how stupid I must look. But I pushed through and by the end I was shaking it like the rest of the people. Through this process I let go of my body hang ups, my insecurities and the fear of being judged and just let myself be in the moment. It was so freeing.

I shook off all the negative energy and finished feeling completely revived with a new found confidence.

Take action: I challenge you to get your groove on. When you wake up put your favourite song on, close your eyes and shake off your stress and negative energy. Let it all go and your mood will be transformed.

Finding stillness after Ecstatic Dance

Finding stillness after Ecstatic Dance

2. I started to open up more

When I lack confidence I tend to not want to speak to anyone let alone people I don’t know. But looking back at this habit it has led me to realise just how destructive it is. It leaves me feeling lonely and disconnected.

So I have been challenging myself by saying hi to everyone I make eye contact with. I have had so many conversations with people that I wouldn’t have had if I had stayed closed off. All these interactions have left me feeling connected, supported and full of love. Doing this has boosted my confidence, I have made new friends and I have learnt just how the fear of being seen has held me back in many areas of my life. I am committed to changing this.

Take action: I challenge you to make eye contact with a strange and introduce yourself. You never know where the conversation may lead. Stay open and let the act of connection boost your self esteem.

3. I’m practising hypnosis

It can be hard to change life long habits and break through the beliefs about ourselves that have been ingrained in us for so long. So to help me work through some of my negative beliefs that still stick around I have been listening to a powerful hypnosis audio on boosting self esteem. When I found hypnosisdownloads.com I immediately wanted to try it out for myself. I have been listening to the audio everyday and I’m already feeling the benefits. They offer a huge variety of audios that cover many subjects such as anxiety, depression and even exercise addiction.

Take action: I challenge you to head over to hypnosisdownloads.com and find an audio that speaks to you. Download it, commit to finding a time in your day to listen to it and let it help you let go of some of your negative beliefs on a subconscious level.

4. I started wearing my bikini with pride

Having been very overweight as a teenager it made me feel very self conscious about my body. I might have lost the weight but some how I still viewed myself as the short, dumpy, overweight girl I once was. Viewing myself this way is not constructive so I decided I needed to take action to correct this.

So I have been wearing my bikini with pride. No hiding away, covering up or comparing myself to the other women next to me. At first I felt a sense of fear but if I wanted to increase my confidence I had to stop hiding away.  I did feel insecure and shy at the beginning but the more I wore my bikini without shame I began to relax and my body confidence started to grow.

Take action: I challenge you to do things differently. The next time you have to wear your bikini stop hiding your beauty and wear it with pride. Every time it will get easier, less scary and you will find a renewed sense of confidence that will spill into all areas of your life.

Walking on the beach in Canggu

Walking on the beach in Canggu

5. I am learning to let go of control

I have a confession to make. I am a bit of a control freak. Yes I said it. In coming out to Bali I wanted to work on letting go more and finding peace with not being in control of everything. I have realised that having a tight grip on everything and feeling in control is my way of dealing with the uncertainty of the future and the fear of the unknown. In doing this I have missed out on so many opportunities and experiences because staying in control was more important to me.

So I really wanted to work on going with the flow more so I have been saying yes to opportunities that arise that may not have been part of my ‘plan’ and letting others take the lead.

It was scary at first to give control over to another person, I felt anxious but I committed to following it through. The more I practised giving up control the less anxious I felt and my confidence started to grow. To prove to myself that I could let go of control was a great feeling.

Take action: I challenge you to let go a bit more. Controlling everything is exhausting so take a breath and let someone else take the reigns for once. You will learn a lot about yourself in doing this. Powerful realisations will be made.

So it is safe to say Bali has been testing me everyday. Pushing me out of my comfort zone and continuing to challenge me to take action.

I hope this post inspire you to do the same. Just know that change is hard. You will feel resistance and fear will come up. Please dig deep and find the courage to break through as you deserve to live your fullest life because amazing things await you on the other side of your fear.

So tell me, where in your life do you need to take action so you can start to boost your self esteem? Please leave a comment below and share the next steps that you are going to take today to challenge yourself.

I can’t wait to read your response.

All my love,

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Health & Lifestyle

How To Recover After A Binge

April 6, 2015

Easter is a time for celebration. To spend time with loved ones, relax and enjoy yourself. Well that is what Easter should be about but as you know if you have a stressful relationship to food then this is just not the case.

When you think of Easter you think of too much temptation with chocolate being everywhere in sight. This means that your self control and the control you put on food is threatened. You feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed. Trust me I have been there. My Easter story used to be the same. Instead of me being fully present and enjoying the moment my head was somewhere else. My thoughts were consumed by negative self talk and a constant battle was playing out in my head.

‘I can’t have that Easter egg because I know I won’t be able to stop if I do’

‘Ok what is one bite. What harm can it do’

An hour has past and I have eaten a whole bag of Lindt chocolates and mini easter eggs. So much for just one chocolate. The negative talk starts to kick in.

I can’t believe I have eaten so much. I am disgusting. Look at me’

‘How can everyone else just have a tiny bit of chocolate and leave it at that? What is wrong with me?’

‘Tomorrow will be different. I won’t have any chocolate. Ever’

The shame and the guilt I feel becomes overwhelming. It consumes me and I get lost in the darkness of despair. Hating myself and longing for things to be different. For me to be ‘normal.’

I manage to get to bed, I don’t sleep well because of all the sugar circulating around my body and the negative thinking keeps me up. The worry about how I’m going to get through tomorrow keeps playing on my mind.

I wake up with the best intentions but that feeling of deep shame is still there. Still playing over and over in my mind. My will power starts to fall away and that leftover chocolate is calling my name. I know I shouldn’t but the pull is too strong and yet again I find myself post chocolate binge right back where I started.

This is how my story used to play out. Can you relate?

This cycle is something that I was constantly stuck in and it really upsets me to see women struggling with this very issue. I managed to finally leave that cycle of eating and thinking when I thought it was impossible. I now work with women to help and support them to do the very same. To finally leave food hell and create a healthier relationship to food and more importantly themselves. It would have been a crime to go through what I went through and not help others. To share what I have learnt while on my journey and throughout my education to offer relief and a way to move forward so real life long changes can occur.

So if you find yourself in that place of shame and despair after bingeing on too many chocolates or whatever your binge food might be. I want you to try these 5 strategies:
Forgive Yourself

In this very moment. Forgive. The past is the past. Don’t dwell on it. You are NOT your mistakes. They do not define you. Say it with me:

‘I am not my mistakes. I forgive myself completely. I am trying my best and I know that change can occur and I forgive myself’

Breathe

Don’t allow your stress and anxiety to get the better of you. When you feel stressed your body tenses up and your breath becomes shallow which only makes you more anxious. Close your eyes and take 10 deep breathes. In through your nose and out through your mouth. This exercise lowers stress chemistry, allows for the mind to slow down and reconnects you with your body.

Do it NOW

Get Curious 

Awareness is key when you are trying to change. So instead of getting lost in the maze of self loathing. Ask yourself a few questions so you can better understand yourself and the role food plays in your life:

‘What is my relationship to food trying to tell me?’
‘What is going on for me emotionally at this time?’
‘What does food represent for me?’
‘How can I do things differently next time?’
‘How can I love myself in this very moment?’

Get your journal out and start writing.

Move Your Body

Don’t sit and dwell on your past mistakes. Instead try your best to get outside. Go for a walk or a run. Whatever feels good for you. Get your blood flowing. This will help your body detox, your mind to becomes less foggy, lift your mood and help ease digestion. You can even try a little yoga which will connect you to your breathe and allow for your strong emotions to dissipate. Try this video: Yoga for Digestion

Eat Real Food

Get back to eating real and nutritious food to help balance out blood sugar levels and get you back into a normal eating rhythm which will help reduce cravings. Think proteins such as lean meats, eggs, pulses, salmon and pair it with a good source of healthy fat from avocado, olive oil, nuts and seeds. Make sure you also fill your plate with alkalising greens such as kale, broccoli, lettuce or spinach. Try my Chickpea and Avocado Salad which is quick and easy to make.

You can’t hate yourself and your body into change. This way of living is very stressful and will only lead you back to where you started. So if you find yourself lost in confusion and self doubt try one of these strategies and then move onto the next strategy when you are ready. Take it slow, be kind and be patient with yourself.

I hope this post was helpful to you and I want you to know you are not alone in your struggle with food. So many women are feeling how you are feeling. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
If you feel you need some extra support and guidance to turn your relationship to food around please feel free to contact me so I can book you in for a complimentary skype chat to see how I can best support you. I have been where you are and trust me. There is hope and change is possible. Get in contact today.

All my love,

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Recipes

A Baked Egg Brunch Recipe

March 26, 2015


Eggs are always my go-to brunch food and for good reason. Eggs are a great source of protein to help stabilise your energy levels throughout the day and keep you feeling satisfied.

Furthermore, the butter beans in this dish will supply you with a high dose of protein as well as fibre to keep your digestion on a healthy track.

The chilli and paprika give it a great kick, which helps to rev up your metabolism.

So, the next time you are stuck for brunch ideas, rustle up this healthy dish. You are sure to have some happy customers!

Ingredients

  • 1 tbsp coconut oil
  • 2 red onions, chopped
  • 400g can butter beans
  • 1 red pepper
  • 2 courgettes
  • 400g can chopped tomatoes
  • 6 eggs
  • Small bunch of chives
  • 1 red chilli, deseeded and finely chopped
  • 1 tsp paprika
  • 2 garlic cloves, chopped

Method

  1. Heat the coconut oil in a frying pan with lid, then cook the onions, chilli, garlic, red peppers and courgettes for 5 minutes until soft.
  2. Stir in the tomatoes, butter beans and paprika, then bring to the boil. Turn down the heat and simmer for 10 minutes until the sauce is thick.
  3. Use a spoon to create 6 wells in the tomato mixture, and crack the 6 eggs into the wells.
  4. Move the pan into the pre-heated oven and bake for 10 to 15 minutes or until the eggs are done to your liking.
  5. Remove from the oven and sprinkle the chopped chives on top. Serve and enjoy!

Little tip: Serve with a side salad and a simple olive oil, lemon juice and mustard dressing

If you do give this recipe a go make sure you show me your amazing creations via Instagram or Facebook.

All my love,

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Health & Lifestyle

What Healthy Looks Like To Me

March 17, 2015

Everyone has their own view of what healthy looks like. We are constantly growing and changing as women and trying to keep up with life the best that we can. I really wanted to write a post about what being healthy looks like and how it actually feels and I have called on some of my friends in the health industry to comment on what healthy looks like to them.

These women are out there supporting, offering information and inspiring women everyday to choose the healthiest way to live that suits their lifestyle and their uniqueness. So I hope that this post inspires you to get connected to what it truly means to be healthy in body, mind and spirit.

For me healthy means: 

Respecting and caring for your body in a compassionate and loving way. This entails fuelling the body with whole real foods. Not too much but not too little and indulging in the odd treat which nourishes the soul and gives you pleasure. In terms of exercise I belive we should move the body in a way that suits our nature and personality. To never take things too far or punish the body beyond its means. To never stick to a rigid routine but everyday listen to your body, connect to it and see how it feels and move in a way that feels good for you on that day.

Healthy means not being judgemental to yourself but loving yourself through the tough times, through the mistakes that you make. We are only human and we will make mistakes. It’s about forgiveness and noticing that you are doing your best and that is all you can do. Being healthy means allowing your body rest, relaxation and enjoying pleasurable experiences. To never listen to the negative voice in your head that is telling you destructive self loathing thoughts. To believe that you are worthy of love, laughter, happiness, respect because you are a strong woman and nobody and nothing should ever take that away from you.

To never do something or be someone because you feel you have to. You have a choice. This is your life and you have the power to be who you want to be, to do what you want to do and live the way you want to live. To choose love over fear in every situation and to strive for balance in all areas of your life. In body, mind and spirit. That to me is what healthy truly looks like.

Now lets hear what the girls have to say on the matter

Hannah Darvas

Hannah Darvas

‘For me, health is being at peace with myself. Having the ability to live in the moment without a second thought or any doubt. Health isn’t and shouldn’t be food-focussed. Maintaining a balanced lifestyle gives you the ability to indulge and have fun without suffocating yourself with empty diet promises and superficial, shallow goals. The day that I ditched the diets and swapped them for realistic goals and a passion for health, my life finally began falling into place. Health isn’t numbers, diet plans, meal prepping or gruelling workouts. Health is loving yourself first, from the inside out. Smiling because you truly mean it and being surrounded by people you love — helping you to be the best version of you.’ Hannah Darvas (Food Blogger)


Carly Rowena

Carly Rowena

Healthy to me is someone who is comfortable in their skin, understands the strengths and weaknesses of their body and enjoys their life to the maximum without overeating, underrating, over exercising or binging. I love to train my clients to feel incredible and to treat fitness like Yoga, you are always striving for improvement and progression, there are no boundaries and nothing is wrong or right, if you feel it, then it’s working.

Carly Rowena (Personal trainer & Fitness Blogger)


Natalie Glaze

Natalie Glaze

Being Healthy is all about happiness, living a healthy lifestyle is not just eating healthy food although that is key. Also exercising, sleeping enough, drinking enough water and not depriving yourself of anything. For me healthy is all about being balanced, as that’s when you are happiest.

Natalie Glaze  (Health & Fitness Blogger)


Rhiannon Lambert

Rhiannon Lambert

Health is Happiness, to me nothing can be healthier than being able to enjoy life and the company of others. Our minds, bodies and soul need to be healthy before they can be fulfilled. As a nutritionist, I believe in nourishing our bodies and not depriving it from the fuel it needs to function optimally, it is for this reason I do not believe in fad diets. Lets enjoy real food and embrace what this earth can give us 🙂 After all we are what we eat!

Rhiannon Lambert (Nutritionist)


Zanna van Dijk

Zanna van Dijk

“To me health is so much more than how you look on the outside. Sure – having glowing skin, shiny hair and a flat stomach is nice but it’s not the be all and end all. Health is about enjoying your training, eating a variety of nutrient dense foods and most importantly it’s about your inner balance and happiness”

Zanna van Dijk (Personal Trainer & Nutrition Consultant)


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Cat Meffan

“For me, to be healthy is to be happy in all aspects of my life. Even though I’m a huge fitness fan and I love to workout to stay in shape, being healthy is more about the mind and how you think. Keeping fit is just a small part of it, along with eating healthy, being mindful, being grateful and doing what you love.”

Cat Meffan (Fitness Blogger)


Charlotte Beer

Health can relate to your body, your mind and your spirit. To me, being ‘healthy’ means being content with your lifestyle. If you’re in a great place with a positive mindset, you’re healthy! Today we focus too much on the food aspects of health and often forget about the other factors such as the mind in determining how healthy a person is. Health should not be a singular defined term, but instead it should encompass the entirety of a person. Charlotte Beer (Food Blogger)

Thank you so much girls for your inspiring words. It seems to me when we take into consideration all of the comments we come back to this ONE very important fact:

In the comments below. Tell me. What does healthy look like to you? 

All my love,

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Recipes

Chocolate Protein Pancakes

March 11, 2015
These delicious pancakes are gluten free, refined sugar free and taste so delicious. I always make sure that I have a good protein packed breakfast to keep my energy levels up throughout the morning and these pancakes really do the trick. I have added chocolate protein powder to the mixture to bump up the protein content. At the moment my go to brand for protein powder has been Sunwarrior. They do a great selection of plant based protein powders but feel free to use any brand that works for you. I topped the pancake off with a spoonful of greek yoghurt to add some creaminess, raspberries for a boost of natural sweetness and a hit of antioxidants as well as a sprinkle of cacao nibs for an added energy boost.

Ingredients
– 2 Eggs
– 2 Tbsp Gluten Free Oats
– Splash of Almond Milk
– Total 0% Greek Yoghut
– Raspberries
Cacao Nibs (Optional)

Directions
Add the eggs, protein powder, oats and almond milk into a blender and blend until smooth. Heat a pan and add a tsp coconut oil. Pour in 1/3 of the mixture and cook until golden brown on both sides. Repeat this until you have used up all the mixture. Top with 1 tbsp Greek Yoghut and raspberries. For an optional boost you can sprinkle on some cacao nibs for a chocolatey crunch.

Tip:
If you are short on time you can make one big pancake by using all the mixture at once. Feel free to play around with the toppings.

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